I always wonder, how did my parents, especially m mother managed
to bring me and my brothers. As each one were more notorious than the
other. I also keeping asking and talking to know about the challenges my
cousins had while upbringing their children. These are the learning experiences
for all of us. Parenting is an art and as a parent every attempt is to be made
to learn the art of parenting of children.
My mother always said that as a parent one must learn to be more
patient in approaching child or teaching or handling child's issues. She also
said that this was perhaps one of the reasons for having more children. Sibling
rivalry, sharing, responding and also setting as an example was easy for them. Again,
they accepted to learn the art of parenting with an open mind and not being
judgmental. Of course, to some extend joint family system also helped in
nurturing and inculcating the value system.
But modern days Parents are more anxious and register themselves
much head of their children in the rat race. I also belong to this era and sometimes
more confused too-
Recently, in one of the meetings a damaging statement was made by
a renowned Child Psychologist-"PARENTS AND TEACHERS ARE THE TWO ENEMIES
FOR CHILDREN". Where should a child go to???????
As per our traditional values goes we recite, respect and
recognize mother as our "FIRST TEACHER"-"MATHRU DEVO
BHAVA", "PITRU DEVO BHAVA" and thirdly regard TEACHERS as
"ACHARYA DEVO BHAVA". If parents are the first enemy for a child-then
there must be another alternative to the birth of children, secondly, if
teachers are also enemies then where should the children go for learning.
Well, I consider parents as "BLESSED HUMAN BEINGS" and
not all are fortunate and blessed enough to be PARENTS. Again, second blessed
are the "TEACHERS" who have chosen to be in this noble field.
I met an interesting middle aged women who barged into a training
programme session I was attending with a big smile. It was her session and she
was late to her training class (as she was rushing straight from hospital
attending to her mother-in-law who was hospitalized). She had lots of
activities for teaching children and every answer regarding child challenges. Since
then I am close to her and great admirer and can say that I have become a
"Ceiling Fan or Table top Fan" kind. She is none other than Dr. Chitti
Vishnupiya, who has done her PhD research in "Parent Education and Child
Development".Greatest plus point is she begin her career as a
"Teacher". Recently she has authored a book called "Know your
child".
I am fortunate that I was trained by her and got to learn some
aspect of parenting. In fact, she has helped me to see the child and child's
difficulty from different angles.
Every stage of a child's development poses lots of challenges to
parents and also to teachers. In fact, teachers also should be trained in
handling parents and counselling parents. Handling smart kids, shy kids,
problematic kids, hyperactive and so on and many more. As every child is
unique, so are every parent. Each parent may not necessarily come across same
problems as others do in coping up with children.
She always says that spend more time with children and as a parent
one gets to know better and build good bondage...... Very true.
Parents are the first "ROLE MODELS" for children and
next are the teachers. So, as a parent and teacher, we have to play our roles
properly.
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